Family Therapy

Family therapy provides a supportive space where multiple family members can come together to address challenges and strengthen their relationships. It offers an opportunity to explore family dynamics, communicate openly, and work through issues as a cohesive unit. Whether navigating conflicts, stress, grief, or life changes, family therapy helps everyone involved develop a deeper understanding of one another, build stronger connections, and learn healthier ways to cope with life’s challenges together. The goal is to foster a more harmonious and nurturing family environment where all members can thrive emotionally and relationally.

What we help with

  • Parent/Child Relationships

    Lack of Boundaries: Parents may struggle to set clear boundaries, or children may push against them, leading to confusion and conflicts. Without clear limits, children might act out, and parents might feel overwhelmed or frustrated.

    Discipline and Behavioral Issues: Disagreements over discipline methods—whether too strict, too lenient, or inconsistent—can lead to power struggles and misbehavior. Children may test limits, and parents might feel unsure about how to manage or correct behavior.

    Communication Gaps: Parents and children may have difficulty understanding each other’s perspectives. Parents might feel their children are not listening or being disrespectful, while children may feel misunderstood or unheard.

    Generation Gap: Differences in values, interests, or technology use can create distance or misunderstandings between parents and children. The older generation may feel disconnected from the younger one’s experiences, while children may feel judged or dismissed.

    Emotional Distance: A lack of emotional connection between parents and children can create feelings of isolation or neglect. This emotional gap may be caused by busy schedules, poor communication, or unresolved conflicts.

    Overprotection vs. Independence: Some parents may be overly controlling or protective, which can hinder a child’s development of independence and self-confidence. Children might feel stifled, while parents may feel anxious about letting go.

    Parental Expectations: Unrealistic or overly high expectations can create pressure on children, leading to stress, anxiety, or rebellion. Children may struggle with feeling they are not meeting their parents' standards, creating strain in the relationship.

    Divorce or Separation: When parents divorce or separate, it can create a rift in the parent-child relationship. Children may struggle with feelings of abandonment, loyalty conflicts, or confusion about how to relate to each parent.

    Lack of Support: Children may feel unsupported or misunderstood in their personal struggles (such as academic challenges, peer relationships, or identity development), while parents may feel unsure about how to provide the right kind of help.

    Impact of Mental Health: When one or both parents or children are dealing with mental health issues, it can impact the relationship. Parents may struggle to understand their child’s emotional needs, or children may feel unsupported or misunderstood in their struggles.

  • Communication Issues

    Misunderstanding Intentions: Family members may misinterpret each other’s actions or words, leading to unnecessary conflict or hurt feelings. Therapy helps family members clarify their intentions and express themselves more clearly to avoid assumptions.

    Escalating Arguments: Families may fall into patterns of arguing without resolution, where conversations quickly turn into heated exchanges. Therapy can teach families how to de-escalate conflicts, stay calm, and address issues in a respectful, constructive manner.

    Avoidance of Difficult Conversations: Family members may avoid talking about uncomfortable topics, such as finances, emotions, or past hurts, which can lead to unresolved issues. In therapy, families can work on creating a safe space to discuss challenging topics and develop tools for talking about difficult matters.

    Passive-Aggressive Communication: Instead of addressing issues directly, family members may express frustration indirectly through sarcasm, the silent treatment, or subtle criticisms. Family therapy can help family members recognize and address passive-aggressive behavior, promoting open and honest communication.

    Blaming and Accusations: Rather than focusing on resolving the problem, family members may resort to blaming each other, leading to defensiveness and conflict. Family therapy encourages using “I” statements (e.g., "I feel upset when…") to express personal emotions without attacking others.

    Lack of Emotional Expression: Family members may struggle to express their emotions openly, leading to emotional distance and misunderstandings. Therapy can provide a safe space for emotional expression and teach family members how to share their feelings more openly and empathetically.

    Defensiveness: Family members may become defensive when they feel criticized or attacked, shutting down communication or making the other person feel invalidated. Therapy helps family members understand defensiveness, learn to accept feedback, and respond in a way that fosters understanding rather than conflict.

    Ineffective Conflict Resolution: Many families struggle to resolve conflicts constructively, often resorting to avoidance or escalation instead of finding mutually acceptable solutions. Family therapy can teach techniques for effective problem-solving, compromise, and resolving disputes in a healthy way.

    Unclear Roles and Expectations: When family members are unclear about their roles or expectations within the family dynamic, it can create confusion and conflict. Therapy can help clarify roles, set healthy boundaries, and ensure that everyone’s needs and responsibilities are understood.

  • Blended Family Dynamics

    Difficulty Adjusting to New Roles: In a blended family, family members may struggle with adjusting to new roles, such as stepparents or step-siblings. This can cause confusion, tension, and feelings of displacement. Therapy helps everyone navigate these new roles and foster mutual respect and understanding.

    Issues with Authority and Boundaries: Stepchildren may resist accepting a stepparent’s authority or boundaries, leading to power struggles and tension in the household. Therapy provides a space to address authority issues and create healthy boundaries that everyone can respect.

    Loyalty Conflicts: Children may feel torn between their biological parents and their stepparents, fearing they will disappoint one parent if they grow close to the other. Family therapy can help address these loyalty conflicts and reassure children that they can have relationships with both parents and stepparents without feeling guilty.

    Siblings Rivalries and Tension: Step-siblings may have difficulty getting along, especially if they are adjusting to a new family dynamic. Therapy can help step-siblings learn how to communicate, develop empathy, and build positive relationships with one another.

    Unresolved Grief from Past Family Dynamics: Children or adults may still be grieving the loss of the original family structure (through divorce or the death of a parent). This grief can affect family dynamics and relationships. Therapy can help family members process their grief and make space for the new family structure to develop.

    Unclear Expectations and Roles: Blended families often lack clarity about who is responsible for what, leading to confusion, resentment, or frustration. Therapy helps families set clear expectations, roles, and responsibilities for each member of the household, ensuring that everyone knows their role and feels valued.

    Co-Parenting with Ex-Spouses: Navigating relationships with ex-spouses while trying to establish new family dynamics can be challenging. Conflict between parents and ex-partners can spill over into the blended family environment. Therapy can provide strategies for healthy co-parenting, conflict resolution, and managing relationships with ex-spouses.

    Managing Existence of “Step” Labels: The term “step” can carry negative connotations for some children, leading to feelings of being “othered” or less important. Therapy can help shift these labels toward more inclusive and supportive family language, creating a sense of unity and belonging.

    Emotional Distance from Biological Parent: In blended families, children may become emotionally distant from their biological parent due to loyalty to their other parent or feelings of jealousy toward the stepparent. Therapy can help strengthen the bond between biological parents and their children while fostering understanding in the blended family.

  • Addiction/Substance Abuse

    Enabling Behavior: Family members may unknowingly enable the addicted person by covering up their behavior, making excuses, or providing financial or emotional support that allows the addiction to continue. Family therapy helps identify enabling behaviors and develop healthier ways of supporting the loved one.

    Codependency: One or more family members may become overly involved in the addicted person’s life, often sacrificing their own needs and well-being to “rescue” them. Therapy helps break the cycle of codependency and encourages healthy boundaries and self-care.

    Trust Issues: Addiction can lead to broken promises, lies, and betrayal, causing significant trust issues within the family. Therapy helps rebuild trust through open dialogue, setting realistic expectations, and creating a foundation for accountability and honesty.

    Stigma and Shame: The stigma around addiction can lead to feelings of shame or isolation for both the individual struggling with addiction and their family members. Therapy helps families normalize their experiences, reduce shame, and create a compassionate, supportive environment for healing.

    Conflict Over Treatment: Family members may disagree about how to handle the addicted person’s treatment, including whether they should seek therapy, attend rehab, or confront their behavior. Family therapy can align expectations and create a unified approach to treatment and recovery.

    Relapse and Recovery Challenges: After seeking treatment or going through recovery, relapse can be common. Family members may feel discouraged, frustrated, or angry, and may not know how to respond. Therapy helps families navigate relapse, set realistic expectations for recovery, and provide ongoing support.

    Impact on Children: Children in families dealing with addiction may experience neglect, emotional strain, or confusion, often internalizing the issues as their fault. Therapy can address how addiction impacts children, help them process their feelings, and provide support for both the children and their caregivers.

    Guilt and Self-Blame: Family members may feel guilty or blame themselves for the addicted person's behavior, wondering if they could have done more to prevent the addiction. Therapy helps family members work through these feelings and accept that addiction is a complex issue that is not their fault.

    Strained Relationships and Isolation: Addiction often leads to strained relationships and family members feeling isolated or disconnected. Therapy fosters understanding, helps rebuild relationships, and strengthens the family unit through communication and support.

  • Boundary Issues

    Enmeshment: Family members may become overly involved in each other’s lives, losing their sense of individuality and privacy. This can lead to emotional dependence, a lack of personal space, and difficulty making decisions independently. Therapy helps families recognize enmeshment patterns and learn how to establish healthy emotional boundaries.

    Overstepping Personal Space: Family members may frequently intrude on each other's personal space, whether it’s physical, emotional, or mental. This could involve things like entering someone’s room without permission, reading personal messages, or forcing conversations. Family therapy helps individuals understand the importance of respecting each other's space and privacy.

    People-Pleasing and Sacrificing Self-Care: A family member may feel responsible for meeting everyone’s needs, often to the detriment of their own well-being. This can lead to burnout, resentment, or feelings of being overwhelmed. Therapy can help family members set clear boundaries around self-care and encourage healthy balance in giving and receiving.

    Difficulty Saying “No”: Family members might struggle to say “no,” feeling guilty or fearing conflict when their needs or desires don’t align with others. This can create resentment and a lack of respect for individual needs. Therapy teaches assertiveness skills and the importance of saying “no” in order to protect personal boundaries.

    Over-Parenting: Parents may have difficulty letting go of control over their children, even when they are older. This can result in adult children feeling infantilized or smothered, while parents feel constantly responsible for their child's decisions. Family therapy can help parents learn to trust their children’s abilities, allowing for healthier, more balanced independence.

    Over-Sharing or Disrespecting Privacy: Some family members may share too much personal information with others in the family, making others feel uncomfortable or violated. Therapy helps teach when and how to set limits on what’s appropriate to share, ensuring privacy and respect for each family member’s boundaries.

    Unrealistic Expectations: Families may expect too much from one another, either emotionally or practically, which can lead to feelings of overwhelm or resentment. Family therapy can help clarify reasonable expectations and establish healthy boundaries for what each family member is able and willing to provide.

    Constantly Overlapping Responsibilities: Family members may find themselves stepping on each other's toes when it comes to responsibilities, such as household chores, childcare, or decision-making. This lack of boundary clarity can create frustration and inefficiency. Therapy helps establish clearer roles and responsibilities, reducing overlap and promoting healthier cooperation.

    Ignoring Individual Needs: In some families, one member’s needs may consistently be overlooked in favor of others, or the family as a whole may ignore an individual’s personal goals or desires. Therapy teaches families to respect each person’s unique needs, allowing everyone to feel heard and supported.

    Emotional Manipulation: Some family members may use guilt or emotional manipulation to cross boundaries, making others feel obligated to comply with their demands. Therapy helps families identify manipulative behavior, establish emotional boundaries, and communicate in healthier, more respectful ways.

  • Loss & Grief

    Different Grieving Styles: Family members may grieve in very different ways, leading to misunderstandings or tension. Some may need to talk openly about their emotions, while others may prefer solitude or avoidance. Therapy can help family members understand and respect each other's grieving process, allowing for a more compassionate environment.

    Disrupted Family Roles: The loss of a loved one can alter the family dynamic, with individuals feeling displaced or unsure of their role. This can be especially difficult for children, spouses, or caregivers who are now forced to take on additional responsibilities. Family therapy can help clarify new roles, support transitions, and strengthen family bonds during times of change.

    Fear of Losing Another Loved One: After experiencing a significant loss, family members may become preoccupied with the fear of losing another loved one, leading to anxiety or emotional withdrawal. Therapy can help individuals address these fears and focus on coping strategies that promote emotional resilience.

    Denial or Avoidance of Grief: Some family members may avoid dealing with their grief altogether, either through denial or emotional numbing. This can lead to unresolved pain and emotional distance from others. Therapy can help individuals face their grief, allowing them to process and heal at their own pace.

    Loss of a Family Member Through Divorce or Separation: While not related to death, divorce or separation can also trigger grief within the family system. Family members may mourn the loss of a family unit, familiar routines, or the absence of a former spouse or partner. Therapy can help process these losses and rebuild family relationships in a healthier way.

    Changing Family Identity: Grief can alter the identity of the family, particularly when it involves the loss of a parent or a central family member. Family therapy helps families navigate the transition from what the family was to what it is becoming, and how to redefine family connections.

    Increased Conflict Due to Grief: The pain of loss can cause family members to argue, especially when grief manifests in anger, frustration, or irritability. Therapy provides tools for family members to communicate better, express their emotions without hurting others, and manage conflict in a healthier way.

    Children’s Grief: Children may not fully understand the concept of death or loss, and may act out in ways that seem unrelated to grief, like withdrawing, regressing, or misbehaving. Therapy can help parents and children navigate grief together, providing tools to discuss loss in a way children can understand.

    Fear of Forgetting the Deceased: Family members may struggle with the fear that they will forget the deceased person, or feel guilty about moving on with their lives. Therapy can help address these concerns, encouraging families to honor their loved ones while also allowing space for healing and moving forward.

    Physical Symptoms of Grief: Grief often manifests physically, with symptoms like fatigue, headaches, or changes in appetite. These physical symptoms can be overwhelming, especially when compounded with emotional pain. Therapy helps individuals process both the emotional and physical aspects of grief, teaching coping strategies to manage stress and physical discomfort.

    Reconnecting with Family After Loss: The death of a loved one can create emotional rifts within families, especially if family members are unable to process their grief together. Therapy can help rebuild emotional connections, encourage empathy, and guide families toward a healthier, more supportive way of grieving as a unit.

  • Cultural & Generational Differences

    Cultural Differences: Families from different cultural backgrounds may experience tension due to differing values, traditions, and expectations. Therapy can help family members navigate cultural misunderstandings, promote respect for diversity, and build a stronger sense of unity despite differences.

    Generational Gaps in Values and Beliefs: Different generations often have distinct values and beliefs around topics like education, family roles, career success, and independence. Therapy helps bridge generational divides by fostering understanding and mutual respect for different perspectives.

    Parenting Styles Across Generations: Conflicting approaches to parenting can cause tension, particularly when younger generations seek more modern or flexible parenting methods, while older generations emphasize traditional techniques. Therapy provides a platform to explore and reconcile these differences.

    Respect for Elders vs. Individual Autonomy: In some cultures, respect for elders is emphasized, and younger generations may struggle with balancing this respect while asserting their independence. Therapy helps families address this tension and navigate the balance between honoring tradition and fostering personal autonomy.

    Changing Gender Roles Across Generations: Different generations may have different views on gender roles, with older generations holding more traditional expectations, while younger generations may advocate for equality and more fluid gender identities. Therapy helps navigate these differences and foster respect for evolving gender dynamics.

    Acculturation and Assimilation Conflicts: In immigrant families, the first generation may feel strongly connected to their native culture, while second-generation members may want to integrate more into the culture of their new country. Therapy helps families balance cultural preservation with the desire to assimilate and avoid feelings of identity loss or confusion.

    Religious Differences or Evolving Faith: Families with multiple generations or mixed cultural backgrounds may face challenges related to different religious beliefs or varying levels of religious observance. Therapy provides a space for family members to discuss religious differences and find common ground while respecting individual beliefs.

    Changing Family Roles: As family members age, roles within the family may shift. For example, adult children may take on caregiving responsibilities for aging parents. Therapy can help families adjust to these evolving roles, reduce stress, and ensure everyone’s needs are met.

    Expectations of Success and Achievement: In some cultures, family members may place a high emphasis on academic or professional success, which can lead to pressure, particularly on younger generations. Therapy helps to address unrealistic expectations, promote healthier goal-setting, and reduce the stress of meeting generational benchmarks for success.

    Generational Trauma and Historical Context: In families that have experienced generational trauma (e.g., due to war, migration, or systemic oppression), the effects can impact family relationships across generations. Therapy can help families understand and heal from past trauma while fostering connection and resilience in the present.

    Balancing Family Expectations with Personal Desires: Family members from different generations may have conflicting ideas about how life should be lived—such as the career paths, romantic relationships, or social obligations. Therapy provides a space to explore and balance family expectations with individual needs and desires.

  • Divorce & Separation

    Emotional Adjustment to Divorce: Divorce often triggers a wide range of emotions, such as anger, sadness, guilt, and confusion. Therapy provides a space for families to process these emotions, cope with the changes, and develop healthier ways to move forward.

    Role Re-Adjustment: Divorce or separation requires family members, particularly children, to adjust to new roles within the family. Therapy helps families navigate these changes, clarifying roles and responsibilities, and ensuring that everyone’s emotional needs are met.

    Children's Emotional Well-being: Children often struggle with feelings of loss, confusion, and fear during and after a divorce. Therapy can help children understand and process their emotions, while also teaching parents how to support their children through the transition.

    Conflict Resolution Between Ex-Spouses: Divorced or separated couples may still experience ongoing conflict regarding finances, parenting, or personal issues. Therapy can provide tools for conflict resolution, promoting healthy communication and reducing the likelihood of escalation.

    Communication Breakdown Between Ex-Partners: Effective communication can be difficult between ex-spouses, especially when emotions are high or there is unresolved conflict. Therapy can teach communication strategies to reduce miscommunication, improve collaboration, and prevent conflict escalation.

    Feelings of Betrayal or Mistrust: After a divorce, one or both partners may feel betrayed or experience issues with trust. Therapy helps individuals process feelings of betrayal, heal emotional wounds, and rebuild trust, whether within themselves or future relationships.

    Post-Divorce Identity and Self-Esteem: Divorce can impact an individual’s sense of identity, self-worth, and confidence, particularly if there was a long-term attachment to the marriage. Therapy provides a safe space for individuals to rebuild their self-esteem and find personal growth after a divorce.

    Dealing with Loneliness or Isolation: Separation or divorce can lead to feelings of loneliness or isolation, particularly for individuals who may have relied heavily on their partner for emotional support. Therapy can help individuals navigate these feelings, create healthy social connections, and embrace independence.

    Managing Anger and Resentment: After a divorce, lingering anger or resentment toward an ex-partner can continue to affect relationships and emotional well-being. Therapy helps individuals process these emotions, release any lingering bitterness, and learn how to forgive and move forward.

    Navigating New Relationships: When individuals begin dating again after a divorce, it can bring up issues related to vulnerability, trust, and blending new relationships with existing family dynamics. Therapy can offer guidance on healthy dating, managing expectations, and integrating new partners into family life.

    Handling Legal and Custody Issues: Legal issues regarding custody, child support, or division of assets can create significant stress during and after a divorce. Therapy can support families through this process by helping individuals communicate effectively and manage stress related to legal proceedings.

    Supporting Children During Transitions: Children of divorce or separation may experience changes in living arrangements, schools, or their relationship with each parent. Therapy can guide parents and children through these transitions, helping children adjust and thrive in their new circumstances.